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JOAN SHIRLEY (FITZSIMMONS) HORNUNG APRIL 21, 1923 - SEPTEMBER 20, 2021
Manchester, Vermont
Joan Shirley (Fitzsimmons) Hornung passed away at 98 years young at the Equinox Terrace in Manchester, VT under the care of many loving caregivers & Terrace staff. She was pre-deceased by her husband, Leo Paul Hornung in 2006 who was the absolute love of her life for 60 years. Shirley was also pre-deceased by her two loving sisters & their husbands -Marilyn & Walter Moffatt; Janet & James Traub as well as her husband Paul's siblings & spouses - Gerald & Audrey Hornung; Joanne (Hornung) Repettil Lynch; Thomas & Delores Hornung & Richard Cornelius. Over the years Shirley also lost many very close cousins & friends whom she loved dearly & missed immensely. Thereafter, she was the matriarch of the Fitzsimmons Family for many years.
Shirley was born and grew up in Sheepshead Bay & Marine Park in Brooklyn, NY. The daughter of the late Kathleen (O'Leary) & James Fitzsimmons; & granddaughter of late Jennie (Nana) & James (Sunny Jim) Fitzsimmons. Shirley lived a remarkable childhood as the granddaughter of Sunny Jim Fitzsimmons & daughter of James Fitzsimmons. Sunny Jim was a famous thoroughbred horse trainer for several well-known & affluent families and stables. In addition to winning two triple Crowns, Sunny Jim won numerous Kentucky Derby's; Preakness; Belmont stakes, Saratoga & other well known races throughout his career.
As a child, Shirley traveled with her grandparents to Miami during the race season in the 1920's, & then summered with them in Saratoga, NY during race season in the 1930's. Thoroughbred racing was an elite sport then, so Shirley kept company with many famous American & European families. She attended many celebrations for her grandfather including parties at the Waldorf Astoria, Belmont Racetrack, Monmouth Park Racetrack, Saratoga Racetrack as well as many other venues. Throughout her teens and adulthood Shirley continued to summer at the Fitzsimmons Family Compound on Lake Desolation in Middle Grove, NY - just outside Saratoga. A tradition she kept with her own children throughout their childhood years & her children continue to visit Saratoga with their Fitzsimmons cousins.
Joan Shirley married Leo Paul in 1946 just after he returned from military service in WWII with exceptional honors & medals while he served in the European Theater of operations under General Patton. They had an exceptional love affair throughout their 60 years of marriage. They had four children all born in Marine Park & Sheepshead Bay, Brooklyn & then moved the family to Long Island in 1959. Once her children were in school, Shirley secured a job with Pilgrim NYS Mental Hospital where she worked for 20 years as an Occupational Therapist. In her position, she was assigned to bringing van loads of patients outside the hospital confines to teach them how to shop, how to dine out and other skills to acclimate them to eventual discharge into the world outside of their hospital environment. Shirley's compassion & empathy for people made this a very rewarding experience for her. She raised her four children with these same attributes as well as her strong example of independence, strength, perseverance and resilience. Her children all benefited greatly from Shirley's example and traits as a human being.
Traveling was always an intricate part of Shirley's life. She and Paul took the family on trips throughout their children's youth. Most were always educational -primarily around American History. They were proud Americans & wanted their children to understand, appreciate & honor the sacrifices so many Americans made to allow us to live in Freedom & Independence. Early on they would take their family in a big canvas tent to all areas of the US Eastern Seaboard & inward. Eventually they graduated to a small trailer, then a larger trailer. Once their children were independent & they were retired, Joan Shirley and Leo Paul traveled extensively throughout the world - from the Caribbean, South America, UK, Europe, Russia & the Middle East. Between these international trips, they would travel in their RV throughout North America, for months at a time, as true explorers of the Continent.
When Shirley's Fitzsimmons clan got together, it was an all out talking competition! Shirley would be right in the middle of it. Four people would be talking at one time and they all knew what the other was saying. It's a Fitzsimmons trait to this day. Shirley was a beautiful, loving woman in both appearance and spirit. She was truly a genuine person who had empathy & understanding for all. An unbelievable woman who carried herself naturally with such dignity & grace that her presence was felt whenever she entered a room. Shirley was admired & loved by all people who knew or met her. Shirley never uttered a bad word about anyone. She loved going to the theater - Broadway & summer stock in Vermont. She loved the arts, craft fairs, festivals & exploring. She loved to dance & sing & was frequently the life of the party at weddings & celebrations. She enjoyed life and people to the fullest and considered every day a blessing. She had a remarkable soul & spirit.
Shirley & Paul moved to Clearwater, Florida in their early 8O's to begin the next chapter on their lives. They enjoyed the warm weather & traveled throughout the state. After Leo Paul passed away in 2006, the void in her life could never be filled but she continued to persevere & traveled with her children to numerous places including Vermont & New York to spend time with her children & grandchildren. In 2010 she moved to Manchester, Vermont permanently to be close to her daughter & children in NY.
Shirley is survived by her loving children, Terri & Sal Bertolini of Wappingers Falls, NY; Leo & Janet Hornung of Centereach, NY; Bryan & Judy Hornung of Southampton, NY; & Patricia Gagnon of Londonderry, VT. She is also survived by her seven grandchildren, John Paul Bertolini (Beverly); Jacquelyn Wrightson (Gregory); Jeffrey Hornung (Lauren); Jason Hornung (Elizabeth); Justin Hornung (Lorell); Christopher Hornung (Amie) & Richard Gagnon Jr (Aimee). Also her eight great grandchildren, Jackson Bertolini; Reagan Bertolinij Matt Wrightson; Will Wrightsonj Luke Wrightson; Madison Hornung; Sophia Hornung & Oscar Hornung. Shirley also leaves behind many nieces, nephews & cousins whom she loved dearly as well as sister-in-law Marion (Hornung) Cornelius-Oxer (Russ).
Shirley's Memorial Services will be held on Friday, October 29, 2021. Beginning at 8:30am at Alexander-Rothwell Funeral Home in Wading River, NY; followed by a Mass of Christian Burial at Saint John The Baptist Catholic Church; & Internment at Calverton National Cemetery. In Memory donations can be made to The Fisher Center for Alzheimer's Research Foundation, New York, NY (Charity Navigator's highest rating for Alzheimer's Research) https:/Iwww.alzinfo.orgldonate.
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